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Is There A Deeper Purpose To Life?

June 18, 2019June 18, 2019 by Davidson

If you’re steeped in the prevailing materialistic mainstream paradigm — as we all are — you’re told that the purpose to life is to get a job so you can buy stuff. Add to that procreation for the purpose of reproduction.

After that, we’re told it’s about the pursuit of pleasure. Whatever pleasure means to you. Sex, food, drugs, alcohol, fame (approval), fortune, chocolate, love, status, a degree, an accomplishment, etc.

We need these things so that we can be happy and fulfilled.

I’m not even mentioning here the “post-modern” concept that everything is relative and there is no inherent meaning to life. This idea is on the level of mind only. It’s a concept. It doesn’t hold up when we investigate our actual experience.

The Problem

But these things don’t last. Pleasure comes and goes. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying chocolate, but the pleasure is short lived.

Goals are great — but they can’t give you what you’re looking for. You already have within you what you’re looking for in the world.

Even when we achieve a goal, the happiness doesn’t last long. Somewhere in the back of our mind we’re waiting for a problem to rear it’s head. Or the new car smell wears off and we want something else in order to fill the hole in our soul.

Note: Please understand this is not saying you shouldn’t have goals or aspirations. We still want to engage in the world! Otherwise, we may be experiencing an aversion to the world. If so, you can let the aversion go too. It’s just the flip side of attachment. Please set goals that inspire you! Of course, that’s material for another article as many of us don’t really know what we want. We may even set goals to please others, gain status, etc.

Is There Any True Happiness To Be Found?

Is there any true happiness to be found? Is there a deeper purpose to life?

Even when people think a little more deeply about this purpose, they narrow it down to love and happiness. But there’s one catch…

What’s The Catch?

They’re still looking for it in the world. “Well sir,” you say, “where else would they look? Isn’t the world the only place things can be found?”

Yes. Apparent objects (things) only exist in the world. Whether they are cars, people, experiences, thoughts, feelings, images…they only exist in the world. You are relatively correct. If you really examine it, the world only exists in Awareness. But that’s another article 🙂

But…are happiness and love objects? Check. You might think they are experiences. But something all experiences have in common is that they come and go.

“Yes, but love and happiness come and go. That’s why we’re looking for them!”

Do Love and Happiness Actually Come and Go? Or Are They Always Present?

Is it possible that love and happiness are always present? Like the sky? But that they get covered over by feelings that come and go? Feelings such as sadness, loneliness, angst, hopelessness, anger, lust, etc.

If this is true, how do we find out?

Remember a time when you felt happy because you got something you wanted. Can you notice that it’s not the thing you got that GAVE you the happiness? How could that thing or experience have any power to give you anything?

When you got what you wanted, you gave yourself permission to drop your mind a bit (it wasn’t as busy or noisy for a brief time) and the happiness that is at the core of you was able to shine through.

An analogy that is often used for this is a mirror. If the surface is uneven and bumpy (like a noisy mind in a state of wanting), it’s difficult to see a clear reflection. But if it’s calm and serene, the reflection is much better.

In other words, happiness and love are always present. But our noisy minds that were programmed with words and concepts, cover this love and happiness.

Some have said that the root cause of all suffering is desire. This pointer was often misunderstood and has led to a lot of distortion in traditional religion. This is perhaps one of the reasons many contemporary people are looking elsewhere for spiritual guidance — if they’re looking at all. This does not mean we shouldn’t have desires. Wanting to stop desire is just another desire.

What this really means is that when we want something we are in a state of lack. We want because we don’t have. We feel incomplete. This wanting cuts us off from our natural state of wholeness and that disconnection is what creates the suffering.

How To Have Abundance Instead Of Wishing For It

When we are able to let go of the wanting, we give ourselves permission to have. And if any actions are necessary to create what we want, we’ll have more courage and energy to take them. We naturally feel fulfilled and inspired. This is abundance.

Notice when you think of something you want. If you relax into for a minute or so, you’ll begin to notice conflicting feelings and thoughts coming up such as “I can’t have it” or “I’m not worthy” etc.

These conflicting thoughts and feelings create inner resistance. I like to say it’s like driving with one foot on the brake.

These conflicting feelings live in our “subconscious.” When I say subconscioius, I don’t mean anything mystical or far out. I mean just below the threshold of awareness.

When we think of taking an action toward a goal for example, we bring up feelings from the subconscious. They were always there. But we didn’t notice them until we thought about our goal. Even though these feelings may feel uncomfortable, this is great!

Why? Because it’s an opportunity to look at them and stop believing in them. In other words, to let them go.

You Are Already Whole and Complete

When we let go of these uncomfortable and constricting feelings, we naturally feel our true unlimited Beingness. Our true nature that was there prior to conditioning.

This is a deep sense of peace and stillness that could also be called happiness. Everything is perfect the way it is. It feels vast and unshakeable.

Usually thoughts and feelings and busy mind come back in to cover up this essential nature that is always there. That’s simply habit. Like grooves in the vinyl of a record.

Summary

As I write this article, I realize this topic could actually be a series of articles or even a book. There are so many angles I can approach it from — and they all interconnect and support each other.

But for now, I would say that when we let go of resistance to what is, and embrace our courage (not out of stoicism or “ought to”) there is a deep sense of peace and happiness that seems to have no beginning or end.

Once you touch this happiness you are never the same. You are beginning to awaken. This awakening gets stronger and more stabilized as you bring Awareness into your daily life. This happiness and peace that is your true nature is what you have been looking for all along in the world.

Of course, it’s wise to also do the activities that make us happy. But when we can remember that the source of our peace and happiness is within, it makes life so much sweeter and always fresh.

The deeper purpose of Life is to recognize the truth of what you are: Unlimited Being. Not as a concept or idea, but actually. To experience no separation from the Eternal Spirit. From this foundation, you are able to consistently enjoy and appreciate your life in the world regardless of what is going on. This is Love in action.

Learning The Art of Surrender and Non-Resistance

Life Is Not A Journey

The Dark Side of Twin Flames

Learning The Art of Surrender And Non-Resistance

May 18, 2019May 18, 2019 by Davidson

Learning the art of surrender comes up a lot in my work with others through facilitating letting go or tarot readings.

People often ask me how to surrender. They see and understand the importance of it, but they just don’t know how...

Learning the art of surrender will transform your life.

To the everyday mind, it seems that allowing means to give up and be a “doormat.”

But what if non-resistance is your true nature? Let’s look into it.

Resistance vs The Art of Surrender

Resisting “what is” and wanting to change it is from the conditioned and finite human mind. This is the root issue of all the discord on this planet.

We want to change people’s behaviour so that it’s more in line with our preferences so that we can “love” them. But if they don’t behave in those ways, we withhold our “love.”

I don't know about you, but in my experience, withholding love from someone we love is definitely a surefire recipe for suffering. Our pride wants to be right. But who does the pride truly even belong to? When we look with the eyes of Love we see through the illusion of pride.

We also say we trust and have faith in a Higher Power — but then we resist what is and want to control things ourselves. We want the outcome to be the way we want it to be. Surrender seems like death from the point of view of the limited ego.

We are afraid to look at “what is.” We forget the moments we truly remember our True Nature -- because these moments happen in the gaps between thoughts. And we overlook that. It’s too simple.

Then, once we’re back in our thinking mind, we identify with our thought based sense of self. Because this self is made up of memories and tendencies from the past, it cannot touch That which is the Real.

It tries to figure things out, but it just ends up feeling overwhelmed and even more confused and doubtful.

But it still doesn’t want to surrender control because it doesn’t want to “die.”

So then it tries to believe. Belief can be helpful as an aid to help pull you up higher if you're temporarily in a dark place. Then faith can pull you even a bit further. But at some point you need the experience. You need to know for your yourself.

Techniques To Support The Art of Surrender

Next time you resist a person or an event in your life, check: are you those feelings and thoughts that are disturbed? Or, are you the Light of Awareness in which the uncomfortable feelings are appearing?

Then ask yourself “could I allow what is to be as it is? Just for now? As best I can?” These questions are very simple but powerful pointers toward the experience of surrendering.

If you’re still resisting, that’s perfectly ok. Try asking the above questions a few times.

Just by being willing to examine whether those thoughts and feelings are true is already raising your vibration into higher frequencies of courage. You are learning the art of surrender.

Once you do it with small things, your monkey mind will begin to see that surrender is in fact more helpful than trying to control everything. Which I think most of us realize is a losing proposition — and that’s why you’re here reading this.

What Are We Surrendering To?

If you notice that you are the Aware “space” (it’s not truly space, because Awareness or Consciousness has no form — but the image of space can sometimes be helpful in the beginning) and not the content, you are getting closer to touching Eternity.

That is Awareness becoming aware of Itself. Awareness is always present no matter what. It’s the same awareness that was there when you were 5 years old, 15 years old, 25 years old, 45 years old.

Notice how that awareness just simply is? It doesn’t need to make any effort in order to be?

That Awareness is exactly the same Awareness that is present in any other person. It’s even the same Awareness that is in a cat or dog or any living thing. That is why it is said that God-All-That-Is is omnipresent (everywhere), omniscient (all-knowing), etc. But humans have a unique perspective because of our nervous system, brain, etc.

Note: I’m definitely NOT saying that Consciousness comes from our brain.

I’m saying that with our brain and nervous system, we have the ability to be aware of being aware. This allows us to access That which is beyond time and space. Beyond the 3D experience that we seem to be completely immersed in.

What Are We Surrendering? Is It A Sacrifice?

In order to do this, we need to surrender that which we think we are. This includes memories, thoughts, feelings, sensations, images, etc. Even our identification with our physical bodies.

So the only things we're "sacrificing" are the things which are not real to begin with. This doesn't mean we become blank slates devoid of colour! On the contrary. We become more spontaneous and less self conscious.

Important Note: This does NOT mean you shouldn’t take care of your physical body while you have one. Please do your best to nourish it with good food, water, sleep and exercise of some kind.

Do You Exist?

Of course you do! Even if you were to answer "no," you would have to exist in order to validate your (incorrect) answer.

Let me try it this way: “Are you?” In other words, are you aware?

You may have noticed that you paused to look. And you were able to realize that you do indeed exist. When you did this, there was no thought required.

Thoughts have no life in and of themselves. They require Awareness to give them life.

You came back to thought and words when you answered. But when you looked, you were simply being aware of the Awareness. That was a state of surrender.

This Awareness is not coloured by anything personal. No likes, dislikes, preferences or background story. Like I said above, notice how it felt exactly the same at many times during your life. Even though your mind has changed and your body has changed, the Awareness is the same.

This Awareness is non-local. In other words it’s the same Awareness that gives Light and Life to everything.

Next time you interact with another human being, see if you can become aware of the Awareness that they are — and allow yourself to recall that it is this same Awareness that is aware of you.

If you do this, even a mundane interaction can be experienced as sacred and holy.

This is the art of surrender. Surrendering or letting go of that which you are not. Desired outcomes, fears, attachments, aversions, etc. Being aware of Awareness is surrender.

How Can The Art of Surrender Help?

If you have a goal, surrender can free you up in so many ways. For those of you who have played sports or music, think of those times where your performance was really great.

Notice how it was those times that you were loose and confident? Not the kind of "confidence" where you were pumping yourself up. It was more a situation where you wanted to “win” or perform well, but you weren’t gripping the outcome so tightly. That was the art of surrender in action.

Same with anything in life. If you have a business goal and you can surrender the outcome, you’ll have more energy to take appropriate action. Remember — surrendering doesn’t mean you feel hopeless! It means that you are ok if you win or lose.

This puts you in that “loosey-goosey” state where optimal performance happens. This is also known as "flow."

Even if you want to be in a mutually supportive and healthy, loving relationship. I’m not going to go into it here, I will have other articles on this, but if you are looking to GET happiness from a relationship, you’re already in trouble.

But if you are surrendered to the outcome, it means you are more aligned with wanting a relationship as a way to express the joy and love you feel inside. You realize you have the ability to BRING love and happiness to the relationship.

This energy is also felt by other people. They feel safer and more relaxed around you as a result.

Learning the art of surrender is a powerful practice. The wonderful thing about it is that you can practice it best while engaging with the world. You don’t have to go live in a monastery or a cave. You can surrender in the midst of your busy life.

The Dark Side of Twin Flames

May 8, 2019May 8, 2019 by Davidson

There are a lot of words in “spiritual culture” these days that I don’t completely resonate with. I think they began with a positive intention, but they can cause a lot of unecessary confusion and suffering with people.

As an intuitive reader, I get asked certain questions a lot. Questions such as “is this person my twin flame? Or are they my karmic flame? etc.”

I’m not disagreeing and saying that there aren’t are certain kinds relationships that are expressed differently. I’m not saying that certain people aren’t drawn to each other in a way that the mind cannot possibly understand. A sort of pre-destined Destiny. Or certain lessons to be learned. This certainly seems to be true in my own experience. And I do of course, have a romantic sensibility that the concept of soulmates has always appealed to.

But when we put a relationship in a box with a label, we stifle whatever it is. Relationships — no matter whether lover and partner, parent, child, friend, co-worker or a cashier at a shop — are all based on Love.

If we get overly attached to the idea of a person being our “twin flame” it’s a subtle form of trying to control and manipulate the relationship. Is that Love?

Sidenote: Our ability to grant the other the right to be themselves is based on our ability to accept and love ourselves as we are. This will be a topic for a new article.

If that person truly is part of your Destiny and Lifepath in an intense, beautiful, healthy and mutually supportive way, that will unfold much better if you actually act from Love and allow it to be what it wants to be.

For example, I love Mary more than words could ever describe. And I know there’s a certain relative truth to us being “eternal soulmates/twin flames” or “divine masculine/divine feminine” — but I also know that those are only words. Words and concepts can only ever point. They are never the real.

What we have, I FEEL and EXPERIENCE within myself and within the day to day rhythms of our life together. Words or labels cannot possibly ever encompass the incredible sacredness and gratitude that I feel for Mary’s presence in my life.

I simply do my best to bring Love to our relationship. And sometimes when wounded parts of myself get triggered, I still do that. It’s hard work, but that’s when I look at myself until I turn whatever is inside me that is not love into love. I use a combination of pure awareness as well as powerful techniques of letting go.

The problems begin when people get overly attached to these labels and they insist that a certain person is a twin flame. Maybe they are and maybe they aren’t. You want me as a reader to provide some sort of guarantee to you. Life is not carved in stone, but…

I get it! I have compassion for that. It’s scary and we have to be vulnerable to open up to someone and then commit to going through the places we’ve been hurt together. We also have to be courageous enough to face the possibility of rejection.

All I’m trying to say is Love is a complete surrender. You just have to let it all out. You have to be prepared to accept what comes whether it comes or not. There are no guarantees.

It’s ok and healthy if you simply want some reassurance about proceeding with a certain person or not. But life is on a “need to know” basis. That’s how it was designed to be.

Most of the time, even the best readers or astrologers can only give you a “weather report” of the current energies. It’s up to us to co-create from the unknown. Yes, it’s scary at times. But that’s why we’re here.

Even if I were to get a message that the person was your Destiny, you’d STILL have to go through the courage of opening up your heart. And loving them even when their behaviour touches on a wound. You’d still have to actually BE in a relationship.

This can be another time you may need a reader. To help you discern if someone’s behaviour crossed a line and you are in a toxic relationship of some kind. But even in healthy relationships that are very happy, wounds sometimes get exposed. And that’s when the rubber hits the road.

If you feel you must use the labels above to describe certain types of dynamics that may exist in relationships, that’s fine. It can be helpful to a point. Maybe you and a certain someone DO have a destiny together. But if that’s so, why can’t you simply let go and trust a bit more? It’s because of the wounds within yourself. And that’s ok — we all have them. So for now, love yourself as best you can and just be aware that all labels — not matter how exotic and spiritual — are still mind stuff. And the mind cannot love or know Truth. It’s as simple as that.

Our minds note the differences with another, but only our hearts recognize the Love that is the Essential One Beingness in all.

Life Is Not A Journey

April 11, 2019April 11, 2019 by Davidson

This post was inspired by the title of a well known talk by Alan Watts. I’ve linked to the video at the end of this article.

We are often unhappy. And if we’re not noticeably unhappy, we have a constant nagging dissatisfaction within us.

We have many ways to distract ourselves from these uncomfortable feelings. The ways we distract ourselves are well documented.

My preferred way for a few years was alcohol and drugs, etc. I’ve now been completely clean and sober since 1997. I was fortunate in that my distraction preference was so obvious and self-destructive that I was able to wake up. Scared straight you could say. Yours might be more subtle…

So, how can we find happiness? We’ve been conditioned to believe that it exists outside of ourselves in things such as the approval (or disapproval) of others, status, a certain partner or job and myriad other goals and ways.

When we get that “thing” then we can be happy. At least that’s what we tell ourselves.

The interesting thing to me, is that when observed closely, it’s pretty obvious that it all stems from a feeling of not being enough. Never feeling complete or whole. Something’s always missing.

Since we are so strongly identified with a psychological structure that is an extension of our physical bodies, we believe that our existence ends abruptly at our skin. In other words, we subconsciously believe we are separate from the rest of Life. This is why we feel incomplete and cut off. This is also why so many insignificant things are experienced as a potential threat.

Our bodies have a flight or fight mode of survival that has hijacked our minds. We’re like an animal who is always on edge — unless something works out the way we want it to. Or we use our preferred method of distraction…

But the root cause of our dissatisfaction is still there…

Is There A Way Out?

In my experience, absolutely. And it’s not through a religious belief or hypnoisis or “reprogramming” the mind.

It’s from a deep recognition that the present moment is the only place where Life is.

Read the above sentence again. Because it’s so simply, we overlook it. We think the answer must be complicated.

You can never get to the future where you think you will be complete. The future never arrives. It’s an imaginary fiction in your mind.

When you get “there” it will still be the present moment.

This is NOT about apathy or not creating “to do” lists and strategies. No. It’s about becoming aware of a deeper dimension of Life. A deeper dimension of you.As a matter of fact, live life with gusto! Go for it. When you are at ease in the present moment (the only place where Life actually is) you liberate great amounts of energy with which to create and act. And you aren’t as easily discouraged when the results aren’t what you’d hoped for. You continue to learn.

We usually get so caught up in the very narrow focus of our beta brain wave linear waking state that we can’t see the forest for the trees.

Watch The Video “Life Is Not A Journey” by Alan Watts

I’ve linked to a very powerful video. It’s brief (4:00 minutes) that I highly encourage you to watch. And then ponder. And ponder some more.

Click here to watch.

It’s by one of my favourite writers/philosopher/mystics of the 20th century, Alan Watts.

My Father Passed From This Earth

May 26, 2019November 10, 2018 by Davidson

Tribute Song For My Dad

My father passed on Monday, October 15, 2018 at 7:30 pm. It was devastating. It was devastating partly because he was still very healthy and vital at 87. We had all just spent the day together laughing and enjoying each other’s company a week prior for Canadian Thanksgiving.

So it was a little unexpected.

It was also devastating because we all spent a very long night in the hospital room with him as he died.

He was in a coma. It was gut wrenching and it tore me up inside to see him like that.

I was there with Mary (my wife), my 2 younger sisters, a niece, 2 nephews, a brother-in-law and my mum.

I think I got the ball rolling a little by saying out loud to him

“I love you, dad! I love you so much. Thank you for everything you gave me. Thank you for adopting me as a baby and giving me a wonderful home.” I was sobbing with tears.

As the night turned into morning, everyone had engaged in the conversation of how my dad had been, or how he had touched their lives.

My mum was an excellent singer as a young woman and she suddenly said she was going to sing him his favourite song. I wish I could tell you what it was, but it sounded like an old folk song from England.

She somehow sang the song quite well despite her advanced age, lack of recent use of her singing voice, and sobbing and crying in grief.

Mary noticed it first, but nobody heard her. Then my sister Cathy noticed. Then my mum. Despite having had a massive aneurism and more than half his brain being soaked in blood, he had tears in his eyes.

My mum gently pushed up his eyelid and all you could see was that his eyes were filled with tears.

Oh my God!! That’s all I can really say. I still start to cry buckets when my mind replays that scene in memory.

I’m ok now on day 5. It’s getting easier. I’m still crying. It comes in waves. Certain reminders and memories of my dad.

But I can go out in public now and at least and nobody would be the wiser — unless I told them what had happened.

Writing A Song For Dad

I started writing a sacred song as a tribute both to Life and to my dad.

Now let me tell you — those writing sessions are cathartic! Good thing I’m alone in my studio.

I’m going to finish producing it (my friend and mentor, producer Gary Gray is going to put the final polish on it) and make a video with pictures of our lives together with my dad. Then I’m going to send it to family members and friends of his.

Update: It’s November 2 now and I’ve finished writing the song. I’ve also finished “pre-production” and completed recording most of the tracks.

I’ve had a strong, clear intuitive feeling that this song will really touch a lot of people. So, I’m going to do my best to get it “out there” when it’s completed.

He Had Many Friends

My dad joined the Air Force right out of high school. He had REALLY wanted to be a doctor, but growing up in the Great Depression in poverty as one of 5 boys made the Air Force an easier choice. Both his parents were deaf and did not speak. Dad was fluent in sign language.

He had told me that when he was a boy in St. Catharines (he was born in Windsor in 1932) that there was a parade at the end of WWII with some of the airplanes.

He was really “lit up” by seeing the parade.

That is probably what helped him tip to the side of joining the Royal Canadian Air Force.

He went through officer and flight training and became a navigation officer.

We were stationed at various bases during my childhood, beginning in Winnipeg.

Then a brief stint in Germany while dad was in England getting set up for our arrival.

We then lived in England for 2 years, then in Ottawa, Canada for 4 years.

Dad taught advanced long range navigation to RAF navigation officers while we were in England.

After that, we moved to a small town in southern Ontario with one of Canada’s largest Air Force bases — Trenton.

While in Trenton, he started training and flying Hercules transport aircraft.

He was one of the commanding officers of SAR (search and rescue) and also ran many diplomatic missions. He was a Major by this time.

Unfortunately for me however, this was also when he was away from home a great deal.

As a teenager, I didn’t understand how difficult it must have been for him to be away so much.

Not to mention the high stress of his job.

But he was doing it to take care of his family. And in every other way, we were lacking for nothing.

My parents never showered us with toys, but we certainly weren’t short on them, either. We always had abundant clothing for all seasons in good repair (my mum also sewed some of our clothes) any necessary education including music, travel and museums.

He really wanted me to be a doctor because as he said, “doctors help people. What’s the point of anything if you don’t help others?”

I didn’t know that I particularly wanted to be a doctor. Until I was 14 or 15 I thought I wanted to be a pro hockey player in the NHL like my cousin Stewart.

That dream morphed into being a musician by the time I was 15 or 16.

Besides sports, arts and literature came easy for me. I could often get an A plus without even doing my homework. And when I had to do English homework it didn’t feel so much like work — unlike math or sciences. I did well in them too, but only if I did the homework. And it felt like drudgery to me.

By high school I already was fairly accomplished as a musician. But then I began to think of it as a possible career.

With his not being home as much, my transition was more of an out and out rebellion.

We butted heads for a while and I ended up running away from home at age 17 in the middle of a snow blizzard.

I hopped a bus to Toronto, Canada’s target city 2 hours west along the Lake Ontario shoreline.

Unbeknownst to me, my dad and mum got in their car and raced after the bus as soon as they found out I’d run away.

They couldn’t catch me.

Within a few months, I started to reach out to my family (starting with my grandparents) and mend bridges.

I started visiting dad and mum several times each year. My two younger sisters still lived there.

By the time I was in my early twenties, everything was pretty good between us. All was forgiven. Lots of warmth and love.

As I got older, it just got better and better.

I still had my own personal issues to go through in life, but my relationship with my dad got closer as the years went by.

Note: My father and I had bonded very strongly when I was a baby. Through my childhood, I was my father’s shadow and “little helper” dressing like him and following him around.

He wasn’t necessarily like father’s of younger generations, but I could definitely feel his pride and love for me.

The past 15 years in particular I always felt a very warm glow in my heart whenever I thought of my dad, or visited with him.

Canadian Snowbirds

Later on, I didn’t get to spend as much time visiting with my parents as I would’ve liked for many reasons.

Life as a self employed musician in Toronto is busy. My parents had also been spending winters at a retirement community in Florida for many years. Canadian Snowbirds.

Note: One of the “perks” of my dad’s service to his country (he rescued a lot of people out of danger and flew over hostile countries in order to deliver medical supplies, etc.).was that he retired at age 45.

He worked another 5 years for the Air Force flying a “desk” on a contract.

This gave him plenty of time to pursue another of his passions, golf.

Golf

My dad was an excellent golfer. So good, in fact, that in Florida he became the “golf pro” for the golf course at the community. It was a volunteer position, of course. He would also collect golf balls when back in Belleville, Canada for the summers and auction them off back in Florida to raise money for maintaining the golf course.

Update: I just found out that a few of his students in the Belleville, ON area who my dad had taught in the summers had gone on to become professional level golfers.

He apparently touched a lot of people’s lives down there. People were really gushing about my dad and how much he shone a little light into their lives.

The man who is going to be taking over his role as “golf teacher” called my mum from Newfoundland this week (where he lives in summer) and said my dad was an incredible mentor to him.

He also said that my dad always talked about my mother when he was giving golf lessons. He often said how she was the light in his life.

This was one of the things my dad could surprise you with. He had many accomplishments — including a few hole-in-ones — but although he could be quite chatty, he rarely talked about his good deeds or accomplishments.

Ballroom Dancing

As a matter of fact, it was only at our recent visit for Canadian Thanksgiving that it came out that my dad was an excellent dancer. Ballroom styles. He had taken lessons since his youth and loved it. He and my mother went often to the officer’s mess until they were in their early thirties or so.

My Dad Is Proud Of My Music

One time visiting my parents, I mentioned going golfing with him and he was genuinely concerned about any damage to my hands for playing guitar.

Another time, Van Halen had played a concert in Toronto and my dad always read the Toronto Star.

He asked me if I knew the band. There was an interview with Eddie Van Halen (if you didn’t know, many consider him one of the “great” rock guitar players).

I said, “yes. He’s one of the great rock players. Very innovative.”

And my dad very sincerely said, “too bad they’ve never heard you play. You’re probably even better.” My dad doesn’t talk like that in general, if at all.

I’m not going to weigh in on that, because anyone who knows me knows that I see through all that “best guitarist” nonsense, there’s no best or better. Although everyone, myself included, has their favourites. And by the way, Van Halen was one of many inspirations on guitar when I was younger.

In my view, there have been many wonderful musicians walking on this planet at various times. Some well known, some not. I encountered and jammed with a few geniuses in my youth — and I know you’ve never heard of them. One of them I know of now has a day job in banking. Another is living quietly in Trenton.

Music is a field of human endeavour and talent. We can all tap into it not only to various depths, but in different places and different ways.

There is only mastery. And even that is dynamic. Fame isn’t always in the equation.

My point is that it was an amazing and genuine compliment from my dad. A man who did not give compliments lightly. A compliment from my dad really meant a lot.

It said, “I love you, son. I’m proud of you.” What more can a son ask?

The Emperor

Mary did a one card tarot card reading for me the evening my dad passed.

It was The Emperor card. Her interpretation was that I am now healing and integrating all the masculine qualities within myself.

My father’s legacy will live and breathe through me.

I agree. I feel like my dad was an Emperor. He was definitely a guiding light for me here on earth.

And I feel like that Emperor power has been awakened within myself.

I truly feel a new power. I definitely don’t care what people think.

A lot of people say that, but I think in most of those cases, it’s more like a “middle finger in the air” kind of not caring.

Which of course, is actually caring.

I mean absolute freedom from wanting approval.

There are probably still some layers of that laying around in my subconscious that will come up, but I know I’ll be able to dissolve them quickly.

Proof Of Heaven

My sister Cathy had read a book last year called “Proof of Heaven” by Dr. Eben Alexander a neurosurgeon.

Dr. Alexander had been brain dead for 7 days and was definitely an agnostic with a scientific worldview beforehand.

He experienced an incredible journey while in the coma and wrote this book about it.

He is in a unique position to look at the context and understand it from the standpoint of how the brain works.

In his now revamped view, he was in heavenly realms with Angels and God (who he calls OM).

My sister had discussed the book with my dad.

Reading the book is helping me feel closer to my dad — even though spiritually speaking, I never doubt his presence close to me.

Note: I haven’t yet finished the book! I just seem to have been in a place in my life for about a year now where I’m not seeking. I know who I am in every meaning of that. It’s just growing deeper and integrating. I’d rather sit and just be and FEEL the answers than read any more books.

I at least don’t feel like I need a book to convince my left brain that there is a world beyond the one presented by our senses. I’m fairly established with that in my own intuitive knowing.

No, I’m not lazy to read. I was a voracious reader as a child and young adult. It even led to my being skipped ahead one year in school.

But it’s also still hard. It’s taking time for my body to catch up to my mind and spirit.

I love my dad so freakin” much! In my eyes, and the eyes of many other people, he was a great man. A beautiful person. He left a wonderful legacy that I will honour with every ounce of courage and Love I can muster.

Thank you, dad. I will see you in heaven. We’ll go golfing and shoot the breeze.

Manifesting Abundance For The Frustrated

October 6, 2018October 6, 2018 by Davidson

Are you hit and miss when it comes to manifesting abundance? Join the club! I’ve been there.

In this article I’m going to guide you to a deeper understanding of not only what the principles of manifesting abundance are, but how and why they work.

Hopefully by the time you finish this article, you’ll have a much deeper understanding of how to attract abundance.

The Magician archetype from tarot is a great image to describe manifesting.

What Is Abundance To You?

This is quite a vast subject which is why I’ll be writing several articles around this.

For example, what IS abundance? We have the version society teaches us. Some money and a bit of fame. But that seems quite a narrow definition. Do we really have to sacrifice our mental and physical health, relationships, spiritual realizations, etc.?

I’m putting this forward because if we’ve thought deeply about what abundance means for us, then we have a much better chance of experiencing it in our reality.

So for now, until I write a more in depth article about what abundance is, ask yourself this question. Reflect upon it. It’s not what your parent’s version is, or your spouses, or society’s. It’s your version of abundance.

Takeaway:

If you can have a deeper understanding of how and why attracting abundance works, you can more successfully eliminate the deep rooted doubts that are getting in your way.

I mean, let’s face it. Most manifesting abundance principles are counter to the way we’ve been taught.

That’s why we can often manifest something small but then other things can seem so elusive.

Before Beginning The Manifesting Process (This Is The Most Important Part That Everybody Overlooks)

We’re in such a hurry to get to what we want, we forget that life only ever happens in the present moment.

When we have a desire to improve ourselves or our lives in some way, we are also telling the universe that we are not enough and we don’t have enough.

The universe receives this “energetic imprint” and says “ok. Here is more lack and poverty for you!” And oftentimes, abundance and success is right in front of us in some form but we’re missing it.

So, how do we get around this obstacle when manifesting what we desire?

We release our resistance to “what is” in the present moment. We find the happiness and abundance in what we have RIGHT NOW.

This is also why Gratitude is so often encouraged as a key to manifesting abundance.

When we can find gratitude for the way our life situation is right now, we have much more power available to assist us in creating more of what we want.

Please don’t gloss over this very important point because it is the key that sparks the ignition.

And if you’ve ever practiced gratitude before, you’ll know that it cannot be forced. It must be genuinely felt in your heart.

The 4 Simple Steps To Manifesting Abundance

Set an intention or goal. Always be open to something even better. This relates to surrendering the outcome to higher forces of Intelligence (number 3 on this list).
Take your best shot (action in the world required)
Let go of the outcome (Could you imagine that you don’t care?)
Evaluate the results. Rinse and repeat the above.

That’s it! These steps are nothing new. For example, they are part of the core teachings of the classic spiritual text from India called the Bhagavad Gita. This looks easy on paper, but requires more than an intellectual understanding. Continue reading below for ways to raise your energy in order to manifest abundance and true success.

Raise Your Vibration

People say this a lot. I think in plain language, it simply means to work on not being pulled into negativity. Engaging in this practice of manifesting abundance will automatically raise your vibration because you learn about yourself and your relationship to Life.

Manifesting Abundance Teaches You About Yourself

This is another secret. The law of attraction (as it is commonly known these days) is actually the law of life itself.

Thought can only create. In fact, there is so much to this vast topic, that I will be writing about it for a very long time!

To really understand how to manifest what you desire is to understand the very truth of your being and reality.

Even though I love to go deep, in this article I want to get you up and running in ways that will help you.

As you practice, you will automatically begin to receive instructions from your inner teacher (in-tuition).

As a matter of fact, this article is a mirror of your own inner teacher.

To really understand how to manifest what you desire is to understand the very truth of your deepest being and Reality.

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Final Suggestions And Wrap Up...

Don’t think too much. The more you try and figure it out, the more you’re stepping on the brakes. I told you it was counter to the way we’ve been taught, didn’t I?

We’re told we must have it all “figured out.”

As you go through this process in your life, you will encounter many layers of resistance coming up.

When this struggle happens, relax your shoulders and breathe as best you can.

Remind yourself this is spiritual progress. More of the real you is breaking through the cocoon of social programming.

If something you’ve been trying to manifest fails or doesn’t seem to happen, it’s not because of your karma. You are not being punished.

Remind yourself (your surface personality) that there is a deeper wiser part of you below the surface that always has your best interest at heart.

I’ve been around long enough to have “failed” or been rejected many times. Guess what? I’m still here, wiser and stronger than before.

In all those cases, I actually see now that I “dodged a bullet” — and I’ve actually always only get what I’ve wanted.

This may be difficult for some of you to understand, however it is my hope that you will one day see the truth of this.

Wishing you success and all your true desires to come true.

Tarot Readings. Can They Help You?

September 8, 2018August 29, 2018 by Davidson

In a nutshell, tarot readings are like a map. But the journey still has to be made! When I do a reading, I do my best to help you understand what choices are available and where they may lead — but it’s still up to you to make the journey.

Creating your life is like a chess game. As soon as you move one piece in a certain way, the outcome changes.

Does This Mean Tarot Readings Don’t Tell The Future?

No. An intuitive reader using tarot cards will get messages about potential futures. BUT as I said above, it depends upon choices that YOU must make.

You have an issue that you just can’t seem to break free of. It could be anything, but whatever it is, you’re at your wits end.

You look up “tarot card reading” or something similar, and you land on this page.

You may already be somewhat experienced with getting tarot readings and your curiosity was intrigued by the title of this article.

Perhaps you’ve never had a reading, but you want to find out more before you take the plunge.

What I want to do is to explain what a tarot card reading is and how it can help you.

So, What Does The Future Have In Store?

We all want to know what the future has in store for us — especially in the areas of love and relationship, business and career, wealth and abundance, health and wellness.

Sometimes we reach “forks in the road” in life and we need to make a choice. And our lists of pros and cons just don’t seem to measure up to the task!

We may have hit a brick wall and are wondering how to approach the situation in order to yield the best results.

Wanting some insight to these types of scenarios is completely normal and healthy!

Note: One of the biggest obstacles to creating a more abundant and prosperous future is the past. Our minds are very heavily conditioned by our past and it can be challenging to believe that we are able to create something new and different. More on this later in the article…

Intuition Is Only Right 100% Of The Time

I believe this with all my heart. However, the tricky part lies in discerning our intuitive voice from the one in our head.

It can be VERY tricky at times — which is where a system of divination such as tarot cards can be so helpful.

However, even people who are adept at tarot readings for others often struggle with being objective when it comes to reading for themselves.

That’s where a tarot card reading from someone you feel a professional rapport and trust with can be very helpful.

A word of caution. If you get too many readings too close together with the same question, the answer will start to get muddled leaving you even more confused.

It’s a good idea to give a little space to allow things to unfold before getting another reading.

What A Tarot Reading Is…

A tarot reading is a symbolic picture story of what is going on in your life situation — both on the surface AND in the deeper, hidden recesses of your soul/psyche.

The tarot cards essentially represent universal and mythical archetypes that influence our lives.

They often show how the past is influencing your present, and what the most likely outcome would be if you continue with the same actions and patterns.

The reading will also often suggest what changes or tweaks in attitudes or behaviour will lead to a shift and a more beneficial outcome.

When someone is experienced with tarot readings, the images on the cards and the meanings associated with them will trigger intuitive responses. These are beyond any traditional meaning the cards may have.

The tarot cards also influence and combine with each other in various ways, depending upon where they are placed.

This Is Where Tarot Readings Can Get Tricky

And also why I’ve written this article. So that no matter where you go (if you go) for a tarot reading, you’ll be prepared to get the most value and personal growth out of it.

Like I said above, by the time someone decides to get a reading, the pressure with a certain issue has reached a high point.

Something in their life is “stuck” or blocked. The outer situations of our lives are a mirror of what’s going on within us. “As above, so below” is the ancient maxim.

This means that many readings could be about changing a pattern or belief that you may hold dear.

This is all with your highest good in mind.

When you are able to let go of a certain pattern (or attach to a healthier pattern), things will start to get better.

HOWEVER, these outmoded patterns always have a built in defense mechanism.

We all want to drive on both sides of the road.

We don’t want to give something up (even though it no longer serves) in order to get what will give us more real happiness and true abundance.

Another term for this is denial.

It’s not always about shifting, though! Tarot readings can also give us a feeling of security when we’re worried and that all is well.

A Good Tarot Reader

A good reader will not only have a deep and intuitive understanding of what the cards are saying in the reading, but he/she will also be able to skillfully communicate with you in order to help you break through any denial( these are the blockages) you may have.

This must be done in a kind, gentle and non-judgemental manner. Yet firm enough to make an impression on you so that a shift can occur.

You are the one who has to make the change. You can’t change if you aren’t willing to change. And a good reader will never insist upon you changing if you’re not ready.

They will probably suggest that you take a longer look at whatever is holding you back. But the decision is always up to you.

Once a shift happens within you, you’ll start to see it reflected around you in your life.

Nothing Is Carved In Stone

The future is being created by you right now! This is the part that should excite you about getting a tarot reading!

The reading is pointing out to you how you can move forward right NOW, in order to create your best future.

The NOW moment is where the future is created. Where else could it be created?

Yes, the past has some momentum. But if you are serious, you can decide to change your life.

Depending how deep the ruts and grooves are, it can be a bit like turning a large ship around — but it is entirely possible! Countless are the numbers of people who have done so throughout human history. And I am definitely one of them — which is why I’m passionate about powerful tools that can help us shift and heal.

This is not magic. At least not the Harry Potter kind. But it IS magic. Real magic. The kind that can bend your reality to go in a different direction.

Tarot Cards And The Law of Attraction

This could be an article in itself. And it probably will be at some point.

A tarot card reading is meant to have you feeling empowered about your ability to co create a more desirable future.

In my own experience with tarot and my own life, sometimes the future turns out in a wonderful way — but it wasn’t what I thought I (my ego) wanted at the time.

But just as we work on Life in order to create our best outcomes, Life works on us in order to change us in ways that actually serve our highest good.

In Summary

Tarot readings can empower you to chart your course in a way that results in the best possible outcome for your future.

It will help you gain insights into situations and to realize your ability to create the future.

Contact me if you’d like details about purchasing a tarot reading. You can also follow me on Instagram (@davidson_yeager) or Facebook (Davidson Yeager) and contact me there.

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Music Is My Dharma. Once A Musician Always A Musician…

August 11, 2018August 11, 2018 by Davidson

Music is my dharma -- what am I talking about? If you’ve been following my posts you’ll know that I’ve been going through a metamorphosis of sorts. I didn't realize until today that I was re committing to and refining my dharma.

Note: This article was first written in 2016. I found it in my "saved drafts" folder. There's an update from Now (August 2018) at the bottom.

Like when the caterpillar feels the itch to allow the butterfly to emerge.

All you can do is surrender. Well, you don’t have to — but it makes it much easier.

For the first few weeks of 2016 I didn’t touch my guitar unless I was teaching.

I sang around the house when moved to sing a song, but did no vocal exercises (singing is a muscle).

I just wanted to make sure that I didn’t fall into the pattern of thinking I really had to do something with my music.

I mean, commercially. You know, make money from it. I'm most definitely not against making money with my music! It just turned into a subtle form of (in)validation over the years.

For me, it’s just not working. The drug is not doing it’s thing.

If you know me, you know that I’m the master of discipline and perseverence. Going after your dream, being courageous and consistent, etc. All that stuff is child’s play for me.

That’s not the issue. It was coming to the realization that it’s just not what I want anymore. Or I don't want it in the same way.

It’s like suddenly realizing the shoes you’re wearing are too tight.

Or the person you’re “in love” with is just not loving you back, man! Get over it. Walk away. Move on.

Know what I mean? The wisdom to know the difference.

So it’s been interesting and disorienting at times waiting and allowing the “butterfly” to emerge from the cocoon.

I’m getting glimpses.

And I’m now practicing a bit. 4 or 5 days a week is all I’m allowed. No more than 20 minutes on guitar and about 40 minutes of singing each day.

Just bare minimum to keep in shape.

And have fun. No commercial agenda. No putting pressure on myself.

What I’ve Been Up To In The Meantime

Previously I also talked about how I enjoy the idea of teaching about spiritual tools, techniques and realizations.

Inspiration and wisdom for people who are looking for that. People who are starting to realize more of their inner truth.

Sharing things like how to develop awareness, access intuitive faculties, more creativity, peace of mind, less reactive, more patient, etc.

How to get free of the conditioned mind made sense of self that we are all so unconsciously spellbound by.

And of course, to realize Self. The Self being a word or pointer that I’m using in this context. You can use Life, Source, Divine Intelligence, The Tao, Beingsness, Is-ness, I am, etc.

I assume this is going to take some time to develop. I just want to follow the impulse to discuss these things and see where it leads me.

Meanwhile, I still need to earn a living, so…

Music Lessons

I’m still teaching and enjoying it very much. It’s very rewarding to work with the people I’m working with.

Helping them develop their musical gifts and interests.

I’m also helping Mary with her intuitive and coaching business. I’ve been interested in and studied tarot cards and astrology since my youth, it’s a natural fit.

Not to mention I've always seen beneath the surface of life so to speak.

I see "The Infinite stretched out in smiling repose" behind the finite forms. Can't really put it into words any better than that. Because symbols are not the thing Itself, are they?

Music

I just want to close out by saying I know that somehow music’s still very much in the picture. I just don’t know how it’s going to fit in with my life yet.

I do have a new song that I’d really love to record. It’s constantly playing in my head and giving me goose bumps. It’s called “Empty Hands.”

As a writer, that’s when you know you’ve written a cool song that will connect with people.

I’ll keep you posted.

Update August 11, 2018: Music Is My Dharma

A few months after writing this article (it was written sometime in 2016) I realized deeply that music is my dharma.

note: "Empty Hands" is now in preproduction along with a handful of other cool songs I'm looking forward to sharing with the world.

What is Dharma? Dharma is a Sanskrit word from Yoga. It is used extensively in the classic ancient yoga text, The Bhagavad Gita.

In essence, dharma is connected with our vocation in the world. These days we'd consider it closely connected to the idea of our career.

It's not that simple however. The world cannot give you the complete answer. For example, how did I deeply recognize that music is my dharma?

It's pretty simple to see that in many respects, my entire life has been geared to making and creating music. But that's not enough.

You see, in order for it to be dharma, you have to RECOGNIZE it. Deeply. It's not just like one of those worksheets "what do I want to be when I grow up?"

You know and you know that you know. It's like your soul. Nobody can take it away from you -- although you could perhaps lose it temporarily through neglect.

Dharma is most often connected with our vocation as I said above, but not necessarily. It could however, be raising a family for example. Or working in a cubicle somewhere but raising the vibes of the other people there just with your uplifting presence.

The ancient seers and yogis felt very strongly that every soul has a dharma or mission to deliver in the world. An inner genius that only that person can do.

I've known music was my dharma since before I'd ever even heard of the word. But it's had to go through many challenges and metamorphoses in order to get rid of any self consciousness around it.

To be able to throw myself into making music and put it out into the world without being attached to the outcome.

And then to surrender my life to the Totality of Life.

All these burning transformations I've had to go through in the past where I questioned my dharma because the world wasn't paying me much heed were leading me to this point...

I'm fairly free of what the world does or doesn't think about my music anymore. I still get a little stuck on this from time to time, but I'm able to unhook myself rather quickly.

And this is where most people get hung up. We are so conditioned to achieve and to measure results -- but even in the field of psychology it is being recognized as a major hindrance to performance and happiness.

You may be thinking that this is apathy. That's what most of us think when first confronted by these ideas. Nothing could be further from the truth!

Music as my dharma is actually Love in action. Just like in a relationship, if you're looking only to GET love from the other, you're relationship will eventually fall apart -- if it even gets off the ground.

When you are aligned with BRINGING love to your relationship, watch what happens! Harmony and connection between you both.

The same Principle applies to creation. When you create for the joy of sharing your art, in order to possibly uplift others, BRINGING it, you are free. This is being in your dharma.

You're no longer a prisoner of "wanting" approval -- the proverbial carrot on the end of the stick.

I'm counting my blessings as I write this. And I don't take where I am for granted. I'll keep alert and keep creating and sharing.

Music is my Dharma after all. Oh yeah...along with sharing these mystical insights.

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Love 24/7: Behind The Story And Music Of This Uplifting Song

July 21, 2018 by Davidson

Love 24/7 started as a melody that was haunting me. I would hear it in my head all the time.

I then did the most common sense thing and started fooling around on the piano and guitar in order to realize the melody.

In it’s raw form, “Love 24/7” probably didn’t sound like much — and I had doubts.

But something kept drawing me back to it — it wouldn’t let me go.

The most challenging thing (as is mostly the case) was coming up with lyrics that were relevant, poetic and rhythmically fit the melody.

That part took me some time until I finally settled on the idea of a new “service” in town that offered support 24/7.

That service of course, was Love.

It was partly inspired by a certain client that Mary was working with.

This client was always complaining about how bad their childhood was and how it was now holding them back.

But this person also had a lot going for them —including financial stability, abundance and decent health — that they seemed to constantly overlook.

I also thought “man, a lot of people, myself included have been through “stuff.” In my case I was a homeless runaway at 17. I somehow managed to build some success with my life but then lost everything at 28 ( and spiralled into depression and alcoholism for 6 years. I then had some tough work waiting for me in order to start spiralling upwards.

Mary has been through even worse in other ways.

And I thought “how were we able to turn things around? Are we special? Do we somehow have a different nervous system?” I know for myself, the first step was to acknowledge my responsibility in things and stop playing the victim.

And no, this is not to pass judgement on anyone who is struggling!

On the contrary, I hope it provides hope and inspiration. Even though it seems (it is!) like a different lifetime when I used to feel hopeless and utterly lost, if this can inspire one person to take up the challenge of choosing to Love themselves, then my mission is accomplished.

The Music Behind “Love 24/7”

As always, I played the instruments and did all the vocals here in my very modest home studio.

Note: I currently play the bass in real time using my keyboard. I’m dreaming about a real bass guitar — even though it will probably be right handed. I have yet to see a left handed bass except for Sir Paul McCartney’s. I’m pretty sure I can handle playing it the other way around. I have some experience jamming like that — and I think I can learn to play grooving and musical bass lines with a right handed bass.

I then started sending mixes to Gary Gray in LA. He would get back to me with suggestions about what I could do to bring the level of production higher.

This went back and forth so many times I can’t tell you! At one point, I was like “I can’t take any more red marks on my song!!” LOL

However, I sucked it up, let go of the frustration, and kept chipping away until I finally crossed the finish line.

Gary then brought in Kristen LaRoche to play the drum parts live in a studio in Orange County.

The next stage of course, was the mastering which was done by Gary. He also added some subtle strings which sound incredible!

Enjoy the song. If you are uplifted by it, please share it!

Other Songs

Nothing Ventured, Nothing Gained

Butterfly

Songs By Davidson Yeager

Are You Willing To Let Go Of Pain And Sorrow?

June 25, 2018 by Davidson

Are you willing to let go? A lot of people these days are saying “let it go” or similar pieces of advice. It’s brilliant! And while I’m happy that more people are getting hip to this fundamental skill, there are still many places and ways that we get stuck.

Many people wonder “ok, but HOW do I let go of (that hurtful and disappointing or even traumatic event)?

I can’t promise you it’s easy — because our minds want to maintain the illusion of being separate from the All — but I can promise you that it is entirely possible and requires no special abilities.

Ok, sounds good. I’m willing to let go, but…

How Do You Let Go?

While a cursory look may reveal that “you” are a separate being (“I’m” here, in my body, everybody and everything else is “outside”) if we are willing to look a little deeper, we may discover that it’s not true in any absolute sense.

Once you steal even a glimpse of what you truly are — unlimited Beingness pretending to be limited — you are on your way.

Easier said than done, though. There are many conditioned patterns in place that will soon depress the exhilaration you may have felt with this peak experience — when the mind temporarily subsided.

And then you succumb to the games of the mind again. You may write your experience off as unimportant or an illusion of the brain and nervous system.

You forget the deep insights you had. That’s because those insights were from beyond the mind. This is where letting go comes in as a serious practice.

Every time you let something go, you are dissolving a layer of egoic consciousness. There are many many layers of this conditioned consciousness — much of it buried in the “subconscious.”

The less egoic consciousness you have, the more Light of your true Beingness can shine through and illuminate your world.

Egoic consciousness is the “dark stuff” that can come over you when you least expect it. Something someone says or doesn’t say, something that happens or doesn’t happen, triggers it.

In other words, expectations weren’t met.

Expectations Are A Lack Of Innocence

However, times when you are triggered, as painful as they may be, are also golden opportunities to let go. Your mind will be telling you otherwise, of course.

Your mind will be projecting it’s problems onto the person or situation as being the cause (and painting you as a victim.)

It will be very seductive in trying to get you to buy in to this storyline. This will feed the cycle of pain you are feeling even more.

BUT, if you are fortunate enough to have come across the fundamental life skill of letting go, you will be able to make a choice.

Note: I’m not talking about serious trauma or working through grief after loss. However, if you’re still grieving long after the fact, you may want to consider that you’re stuck in a pattern. There are also some Yoga schools (such as YogaFit) that are currently having success working with people who have PTSD.

Letting Go Is A Choice

You will have to choose between negativity/limitation and freedom/Love. It’s THAT simple.

Would you rather be “right” and “vindicated” with your limited feelings or would you rather be free?

If you’ve never consciously let go before, you may believe that you don’t have a choice.

But if you are truly fed up with the repetitive and reactive, defensive patterns of your life in relationships, etc. you will perhaps see a glimmer of truth.

As a musician, I’ve faced more than my fair share of disappointment. I’ve experienced rejection or flat out being ignored when I’ve poured my heart, soul and skills into a project or idea.

This disappointment wouldn’t happen if I weren’t so attached to the outcome. Having expectations is a mechanical action.

Having no expectations, the mind is fresh and innocent.

Having no expectations is NOT another “should.” This is something you need to find out for yourself through your own life experiences.

If I put my creative work out there and the specific results I was hoping for don’t happen, I react and feel discouraged. Ok. Fine.

This need for approval and validation can be a bottomless pit if we lack the awareness and tools to help us!

But as soon as I become present and notice that I’m reacting, I start to observe the discouragement in action.

I see how I’ve been looking for happiness where it does not exist (in the world) instead of where it does exist (within me).

Some Powerful Tools To Help You Let Go

There are many powerful tools to let go. The one I love the best that works for me is called the Sedona Method.

Note: I’m not an affiliate with The Sedona Method (I won’t get any money if you click on the link and decide to purchase one of their programs) — just want to share this powerful tool for letting go with others who may resonate with it.

I’ve been using it daily since 2005, and I’m continually amazed at how it consistently helps me turn my mind around into a courageous and empowered state.

It’s a meditative tool of self inquiry that’s designed to turn the mind back around in the right direction. And it’s deceptively simple to use.

Typical Example: Are you feeling jealous comparing your life to someone else? The first step is to be present and realize that your mind has gotten turned around the wrong way!

Using a tool like the Sedona Method can help turn it back around quite quickly. You’ll actually be happy for that persons success! This is a great feeling of freedom. And you’ve dissolved a chunk of egoic consciousness while you’re at it — never again to return, I might add. Although there are layers upon layers upon layers…

Even recognizing when your mind is holding on is a major accomplishment in awareness. Presence and awareness comes with practice and the alchemy of self transformation.

There are some other tools-for-letting-go I’ve heard great things about. There’s one called “tapping” that I’ve never tried (I’ve already got a way that works for me) but it may work for you!

Many people have found success with A Course In Miracles.

And of course the breath is always a key tool whenever we feel anxious or upset.

No “Letting Go Tool” Will Work If…

No tool for letting go will work if you’re not willing to let go. It’s hard enough sometimes with sticky issues even when you’re willing!

There’s a parable from the East about this…

The student asks the master, “what do I need to do in order to be enlightened?” The master takes the student to the lake and holds the student’s head under the water for a while. Finally he lets him back up and the student is gasping for air.

The master says “when you want freedom just as much as you wanted air right now, you’ll be well on your way to enlightenment!”

The is a dramatic example. We don’t need to be ascetics or abstain from the world. On the contrary, the world provides us with the challenges we need to grow.

However, the key is in really wanting to be free. That’s really what this story is illustrating. Wanting freedom is always on your mind 24/7. Even in the midst of intense action engaging with the world. If you can do that, you will get lighter and discover more true happiness every day.

Are You Willing To Let Go?

1. Use a tool that works for you. Some examples of tools that can help:

The Sedona Method

A Course In Miracles

Mindfulness and Breath

Yoga And Meditation

The Work by Byron Katie

Tapping (emotional freedom technique)

Listening to or reading Master Teachers like Eckhart Tolle

2. The tool will only work as well as the strength of your desire to be free and your understanding that it’s a choice. In other words, are you willing to let go?